“It is always important to know when something has reached its end. Closing circles, shutting doors, finishing chapters, it doesn’t matter what we call it; what matters is to leave in the past those moments in life that are over” – Paulo Coelho
A lot of misery can be avoided when we start to apply this quote to our relationships. So many of us hold on even when we know it is in fact…already over.
We’re afraid of change and it’s not our fault. Our bodies and brains are designed that way. Change is dangerous, uncertainty is dangerous…so they believe.
In relationships however, holding on IS dangerous. Before you know it 10 more years have passed and nothing has changed. We’re still with the same partner even though deep down we know we deserve better.
Or maybe we’re single, but we keep approaching every new relationship the exact same way…and obviously keep getting the exact same results.
We know we should move on to the next chapter, to the new us.
But we don’t…because letting go is hard.
Uncertainty is hard, but necessary.
We need to close the door to what is over. If we don’t, the draught is going to keep pulling us back to the past.
Here’s the good news. As soon as you’ve walked through that valley of uncertainty, as soon as you’ve held on despite of all the fears you might feel, you walk into a town called “everything you want”. It’s always on the other side of fear and uncertainty and it’s a great place to live in.PS. I hope you've liked this post. If you want discounts on my books, more empowerment strategies, podcasts and more, please sign up by clicking on the button below: