When a Man IGNORES You, here’s what he’s thinking (counterintuitive)
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What happens when a man ignores you.
When you’re interested in a man, when you’re dating a man, when you’re in a relationship with a man, when you love a man, and he ignores you, you’ll feel hurt.
Actual hurt! Studies have shown that being ignored or being rejected lights up the same pathways in our brain as when you get hit in the stomach or run over by a Rhino!
So in this video we are going to see what a man who ignores you thinks (and won’t be thinking) and how to deal with that, especially when you’re in love with this guy.
When we’re in a relationship or when we’re dating, and the other person ignores us, we may believe it’s our fault. “What it something I said? Was it something I did?”
Truth be told, that may be right. When a man suddenly ignores you, it may be because of something you said or did. But the question is, does that even matter? We’ll find out in a second.
There are different ways that a man you’re in a relationship with can ignore you. You can send him a message and not get anything back.
That’s painful, especially if you love that man. But what hurts even more is when you can undoubtedly see that he has been online since you have tried to reach out, and he still didn’t get back to you.
Now your hart sinks. Now you’re sure, he IS ignoring you. He saw your message or your missed call, and still…crickets.
Now let’s look at why men ignore women.
There are 2 main reasons why a man will ignore a woman.
first: and this happens the least, if he’s in love with you, if he’s in a relationship with you and you hurt his feelings, he may withdraw and ignore you.
That’s just his way of dealing with the hurt.
HOWEVER, and please let this be perfectly clear:
you will know what you have done wrong. You’ll know how and when you’ve hurt his feelings.
So if you have to wonder: “is it something I’ve said or done” and you have no clue, don’t go looking for clues, he’s not in this first category.
Second and this is by far the most prevalent reason why a man can ignore a woman:
he got spooked AND just doesn’t care enough. When you spook a guy, he will ghost you.
But, and please remember this, you can only spook a guy that was not sufficiently interested in the first place.
It’s the only reason. When a man is in love with you when you are in a relationship or dating or in a marriage with a guy who likes you, what he won’t do is this:
ah I get a message from her. Ah I really like her. I loved dating her, I love being in a relationship with her, plus she’s so attractive. I just love love love love her!
So, I’m going to try and forget about her. I will ignore this message, I’ll talk to alll of my other friends and other women, but I won’t send anything to her, you know, because I’m so infatuated and in love with her.
Like I always say, you have a better chance of meeting a french speaking rabbit than ever meeting a guy like this.
When a man is ignoring you, he does so on purpose because he doesn’t want you to get the wrong idea or because he just doesn’t care!
So instead of trying to find excuses for his behavior:
“oh, he probably didn’t see the message” (yeah right), “maybe his goldfish got sick and requires all of his attention” (sure! It happens).
Instead of doing any of that, you’ll need to bottom line it by asking yourself the brutally honest question: would a guy who’s really interested in me, a guy who knows what a high value woman I am, everrrrr do this?
The answer is no. And even if the exception to the rule would indeed do this to the woman he loves. Is that what you deserve, is this behavior that you deserve? Hell no!
Look, I don’t know you personally, but I do know you’re a great person and you always deserve someone who wouldn’t even think about ignoring you, ever.
That said, it is of course important to not make the mistakes I talk about in my books, because some women do push the RIGHT guy away. But even when that happens, and when he then ignores them, it means his interest level has dropped. And the last thing she should then do is run after him.
There’s a very important rule when it comes to love and men.
Now listen closely and even write it down:
THEY HELP YOU WHEN THEY LIKE YOU!
This goes for both sexes. When a man really likes you, he won’t make it hard on you. He won’t punish you if you’ve made a little mistake that spooked him a bit. There will be enough love and attraction in the bank so to speak.
He will make you a priority.
You will come first!
It’s even good news when a man ignores you, because he has just shown you his cards! His interest is simply not high enough and you shouldn’t spend your precious time on him.
You can try to spike his interest by using some of the techniques I talk about in my book. But honestly, why would you? There are always plenty of guys out there who are dreaming about you, who would love to make you feel loved.
And it’s always important to remember that so you don’t keep focusing too much on one guy.
Especially not when he’s not treating you right.
As a conclusion, here’s what you can do when a man starts to ignore you.
The high value woman gets the attention and love from so many men, because she will never run after one.
The person in any relationship who needs the other one the most, is in the weakest position, is not in control.
The high value woman, is always in control. So, if he withdraws, she won’t nag, complain or reach out. She withdraws as well.
And interestingly enough, if the guy was interested after all, this is going to draw him back in in a matter of days.
Because they help you, when they like you. They don’t make it hard.
Make sure that you remain the high value woman that you truly are.